Happy World Breastfeeding Week! Today I’m pulling an entry from last year’s
–Originally posted Aug 3rd 2016–
World Breastfeeding week is a time where moms get to talk about their struggles and their own breastfeeding journey. It can be a week where breastfeeding moms get to feel pride in all they’ve overcome and achieved. Often times breastfeeding moms feel they need to hide, especially after they’ve hit the 12 month mark. So it’s really nice to see breastfeeding in a positive light.
Sometimes WBW comes across as breastfeeding moms trying to ‘prove’ they’re better. Sometimes some breastfeeding moms use this week to shame those who are formula feeding.
Many formula feeding moms feel this week may be an attack on them personally.
None of that is what this week is about.
Making mom friends is hard, in real life and online, especially if you have anxiety, depression or any other form of mental illness. Moms can be more cliquey than highschool sometimes, especially online, but sometimes you strike gold and meet a squad that’s amazing. I’ve been lucky to have struck that gold a few times during my online time. I think online moms get a bit of a bad rep. We’ve all heard about the crazy that goes on in mom’s groups. How the moms can be judgemental & make you feel worthless etc. And while that is absolutely true for some groups (in fact, one of my momsquad found that out the hard way) I think that some groups can be supportive and produce friendships that you never knew you needed. The momsquad I have right now is nothing short of amazing. They’re just a message away if I need anything, a shoulder to cry on, an ear to vent to. Judgement free.
Why do you need a momsquad?
Motherhood wasn’t something you were meant to take on alone. Historically humans have lived in communities, turning to each other for care and support. I am a firm believer in “it takes a village to raise a child.” A child can only thrive when they feel cared for, and the same goes for a mother. We need each other. We need other mothers to reach out to when we’re worried, or when we feel like we are failing. We need someone to say “me too!” so we know we aren’t alone in our feelings. We need other mothers to learn from. Our villages may no longer be physical as they were in the past, but with social media we can be instantly connected to a village of our own. Sure, we have to weed out those that are negative, but when you do that you can find an amazing squad to call your own, and trust me – you need it!
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“Mom, what’s palliative care?”
When my 15 year old said those words last week my heart stopped in my throat. A few years ago he made friends with an older man, J, in the neighbourhood who he had come to adore. We often joked that our son had adopted a grandfather, though that joke was pretty close to reality. These last few months J’s health had been declining. He’d had many hospital stays and we knew it was probably a matter of time, so when my 15 year old asked me I knew where the conversation was going and I was heartbroken.
Recently a birth board sister of mine wrote a blog entry about naming her son Jayne. It was picked up by Today’s Parent and has made it’s way to TV shows like “The Social“. Some of the comments have been supportive, but of course some have been less than great and it got me thinking about how we name our children.
I haven’t done a Mama Kat’s writing prompt in a while because 5 kids + summer keeps me really busy (less than a month until they’re back, btw, not that I’m counting) but today one of her prompts is “If you could have any super mom power, what would it be?” and I knew I had to jump on it!