Do you believe in giving your kids individual time? And if so, how do you make the time?
[via 4 kids or more]
As a mother of four kids, under 10, all in various stages of development, this is a loaded question.
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One Fish, Two Fish, Red Fish, Blue Fish…
“Who is the bad fish in this picture?”
.I asked my husband, with a pit in my stomach, as I read to our 13-month old son.
He raised an eyebrow and said, “Uh, the red one, obviously.”
I always thought it was the yellow one.
My whole childhood, in the thousands of times I’ve read Dr. Suess’s wonderful book “One Fish Two Fish”, I thought the bad fish on this page were the little yellow and blue fish. The red fish, in my child’s eyes, was their father. The yellow fish was in trouble and had been “very very bad.” The little blue fish was smug because he’d gotten away with it and his sibling was taking the blame. The red father fish was spanking the little yellow fish.
I saw this page last night through adult eyes and decided, beyond any shadow of a doubt, that our home will never be a spanking home.
I found this blog post randomly as I was checking into facebook today.
1. CIO can cause harmful changes to babies’ brains
2. CIO can result in decreased intellectual, emotional and social development
3. CIO can result in a detached baby
4. CIO is harmful to the parent-child relationship
5. CIO can make children insecure
6. CIO often doesn’t work at all
7. Even if CIO does “work”, parents often have to do it over and over again
8. CIO is disrespectful of my child’s needs
9. Deep sleep from CIO is often a result of trauma
10. Our world needs more love
Stumbling around I came across this post: I’m not ready… « annamcbean.
It’s full of beautiful sentiment that hits home to this normal-weaning mother. I remember when i had #1 i thought I’d just ‘try’ to breastfeed and see where it goes. By 6 months people were on me to quit. Being young I believed all the silly things they were telling me, but i held on for ten more months. It seemed like a lot… then… now 16 months? that’s nothing much in my world (though kudos to you mamas that reach that age!) When I had #2 I remember saying I would let him wean, but would definitely not go past two, because that would be ‘weird’ – yes, I said that. Then, before his 2nd birthday we found out #3 was in the works and the midwife told me that continuing to nurse would be safe, and actually tandem nursing the two after #3’s birth could help with sibling jealousy. Ok, so I would nurse #2 for just a little bit past two I told myself. Then he slowly tapered himself off as he was ready…and it was so different from weaning #1. There wasn’t the crying or the guilt. There was nothing but a slow tapering off. By the time #3 was nursing strong I decided I would let him wean himself, instead of taking it upon myself, and I have continued with that belief into baby #4.
Does that mean I’ll be nursing a teenager? I highly doubt that. It simply means I am letting nature take its course, the way it has since the beginning.
My rating: 5 of 5 stars
I can’t even put into words what I think of this book.
To say it’s amazing seems to be underselling. This book is beautiful and shows strength,determination and love,in both Jack & Ma.
I could hardly bare to put the book down, and often found myself reading it out loud to my husband.I still find myself telling others about the book, and quoting it.