Cry it out (CIO): 10 reasons why it is not for us | PhD in Parenting

I found this blog post randomly as I was checking into facebook today.

Cry it out (CIO): 10 reasons why it is not for us | PhD in Parenting

1. CIO can cause harmful changes to babies’ brains
2. CIO can result in decreased intellectual, emotional and social development
3. CIO can result in a detached baby
4. CIO is harmful to the parent-child relationship
5. CIO can make children insecure
6. CIO often doesn’t work at all
7. Even if CIO does “work”, parents often have to do it over and over again
8. CIO is disrespectful of my child’s needs
9. Deep sleep from CIO is often a result of trauma
10. Our world needs more love

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Weaning

Stumbling around I came across this post: I’m not ready… « annamcbean.

It’s full of beautiful sentiment that hits home to this normal-weaning mother. I remember when i had #1 i thought I’d just ‘try’ to breastfeed and see where it goes. By 6 months people were on me to quit. Being young I believed all the silly things they were telling me, but i held on for ten more months. It seemed like a lot… then… now 16 months? that’s nothing much in my world (though kudos to you mamas that reach that age!)  When I had #2 I remember saying I would let him wean, but would definitely not go past two, because that would be ‘weird’ – yes, I said that.  Then, before his 2nd birthday we found out #3 was in the works and the midwife told me that continuing to nurse would be safe, and actually tandem nursing the two after #3’s birth could help with sibling jealousy. Ok, so I would nurse #2 for just a little bit past two  I told myself. Then he slowly tapered himself off as he was ready…and it was so different from weaning #1. There wasn’t the crying or the guilt. There was nothing but a slow tapering off. By the time #3 was  nursing strong I decided I would let him wean himself, instead of taking it upon myself, and I have continued with that belief into baby #4.
Does that mean I’ll be nursing a teenager? I highly doubt that. It simply means I am letting nature take its course, the way it has since the beginning.

Room

RoomRoom by Emma Donoghue

My rating: 5 of 5 stars

I can’t even put into words what I think of this book.

To say it’s amazing seems to be underselling. This book is beautiful and shows strength,determination and love,in both Jack & Ma.
I could hardly bare to put the book down, and often found myself reading it out loud to my husband.I still find myself telling others about the book, and quoting it.

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what-my-children-learned-at-the-breast

I ran across this at another blog, and thought it was beautiful. I had to share it.

 

“Looking back I can see that there are many things that she learned during our time spent nursing, and I am thankful that simply putting her to breast taught her the most important lesson of all. She learned to trust. I was always there, ready and willing to nurse her whenever she needed to. Whether she was hungry or thirsty, hurt or scared, tired or overwhelmed, I was there to nurse her and help her feel better. She learned that she was safe and secure and that her needs would always be met.”  –Nurtured child

No pregnant women allowed.

(I originally saw this link posted on Cafe Mom’s “the stir” Image is also from there)

Water-Drinking Pregnant Woman Asked to Leave Bar 15 Minutes Into her Night Out

Why? not because she was doing anything wrong, or illegal, but because she was pregnant.

She wasn’t even drinking!

The bouncer took it upon himself to tell her to leave. Many people argue he had a right.

Why? because she was pregnant?

Last time i checked being pregnant in a bar wasn’t illegal.  They argue he was worried and trying to protect the bar.

Oh, fine, but wouldn’t it be his job to protect every patron in that bar and not just the pregnant one? Then why did he only ask her to leave?

If she wasn’t doing anything wrong, they don’t have a right to ask her to leave, and there is nothing illegal with a woman being in a bar pregnant.
Hell, she can smoke & drink if she wants to (i’m not agreeing, or saying that’s ok!) it isn’t illegal, and that means the bouncer doesn’t have a right to make her leave simply because she’s pregnant.
It would be akin to asking someone to leave just because they’re gay, straight, white, black, purple, liberal, democrat, vegan, whatever. Just because the bouncer didn’t agree with a pregnant woman being in there, doesn’t mean he had a right to make her leave.

It’s discrimination. He discriminated against her just because she happened to be pregnant.

“We live in a country where people feel increasingly empowered to make decisions for pregnant woman.”